Melania's Healing Edge
Question Peoples Motives
I got the opportunity to work up close and personal with an individual in our spiritual community in Saint Petersburg, Florida whose members complained to me about repeatedly for an entire year. Before I got involved, I was thinking, she can't be that bad. These people must be jealous of her success. So I dove in head first only to find out really slowly, not only was what people were saying about her true, it was actually a lot worse than they had described. And, she wasn't the only one displaying unsavory behavior and practices. I was more intrigued than anything else, curious about what she had to offer and I admit, I allowed myself to be charmed by the magical conversation and sparkly personality. But it had a serious darkside that would show itself from time to time. She would frequently do things that were not at all spiritually based, in fact, ego based and when I would call her on it, she would say, "I know my truth!" I was baffled at what appeared to be her successes with that kind of shadow.
Little by little she pushed me away using spiritual bypassing and to keep me at a distance. Except for when it involved me spending money on her classes. I started to notice she didn't have repeat clients and people who had been supporting her before I arrived on the scene began to keep their distance. And yet I continued to support her wondering why these people were no longer supporting her?
I was in denial with every bit of proof. I refused to believe someone could serve both darkside and the lightside. The truth is you can't. But you can pretend to serve the lightside while actually serving the darkside.
And the worse part, she had a team of people who all felt similar (wondering about her actions) yet still enabling her to stay this way. Why?
M O N E Y, status and and a genuine desire to study in metaphysics. There seems to be a collective reasoning in the spiritual community. The inner thought process appears logical; If so and so says she's legit, than she must be. Its part of the charm. Lure them in, ask them to write a review about their experience "if they feel guided" and then it began to unfold. what appeared to be person after person loving what she had to offer. But its not the whole story.
I tried so hard to have a heart to heart with her. She denied me over and over. When I realized I could no longer talk sense into her and that in reality, I was actually enabling her -
I backed off but not before realizing... Her behavior is Cult behavior. And it broke my heart, really.
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Be a Leader Among Leaders
If no one told you today, you are the leader of your life!
👉Never let anyone make you feel less than. 👈
Please do not follow people blindly. The ill intended only care about money. You can't buy these people's love. They will milk you dry before they ever love you.
Question people's motives. Speak up and SPEAK OUT. If anyone responds to questioning with egotistical behavior, it is clear they are still stuck in fear based living and a poverty mindset. If you try to hold someone accountable and they use spiritual principles to gas light, spiritually bypass, or push it back on you with that extremely toxic~ it's a reflection of you statement~ see it for what it is. This is most certainly NOT a reflection of you. This is a warped view of mirroring that allows abusers to use their victims as scapegoats. True leaders allow their team to call them on their shit and love it. They know it makes them better and stronger.
I am asking you to step into your greatness. This city, this world needs you, right now.
There are many people spiritually awake who shouldn't be in positions of power because they are abusing it. it is possible they haven't faced their shadow nor come out of the Dark Night of the Soul. And the worse part? They are co-signing on each others BS making them seem more legit than they really are. This is dangerous, especially when the rest of us are still finding our voice and learning how to expose ourselves to the world as a safer option. This is our time to rise up and band together and expose the harm being caused in the spiritual community by these abusers. Its easy to spot them. Trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, it isn't. Don't worry about hurting someone's feelings. Instead worry about the people being harmed by their practices.
These extraordinary times are asking each of us to roll up our sleeves and manifest a better world.
Lightworker Face Your Shadow
👉Be weary of anyone claiming they have met and mastered all of their shadow aspects.👈
This is a detrimental lure. It can take life times to manage the array of karma we cycle through in one lifetime. Even if you do not believe in Karma nor reincarnation, I caution you in following someone claiming to have mastered all problems in their life. Time, age, experiences and wisdom are all factors in healing. Dealing with the shadow aspects of self is much like learning about a skill, it honestly takes a lifetime to master the self.
We want to instead, connect with leaders who can admit their imperfections. Leaders who acknowledge spiritual growth comes not only from teachers but in the exchange between student and teacher. The moment you realize you are not living how you pretend to be, this is a good time to begin anew. Own your shit and step into the light. We are waiting for you to step into your greatness.
If you are currently involved with a teacher/elder who demands the spotlight or doesn't mind if you speak your truth, unless it takes away attention from him/her~ have the courage to walk away.
As a spiritual advisor of over 25 years long before life coaching was trending, I can tell you, I've been talking people off the bridge as a natural part of my personality. You aren't going to find how to do that in any 9 month mentorship program.
It's a gift and it can be exploited like any other gift. Cause no harm but take no shit!
👉Do not give your power away.👈
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Melania Mersades, writes about Essential Oil Education, Global Energy updates, The moon cycles and the Science behind Energy Medicine.