People react to situations in life based on 3 things: 1. perception (your ability to take things in from healed or unresolved trauma) 2. Beliefs (boundaries set up by you from past experiences) 3. Perspective (the way you look at the things you are seeing based on those beliefs and your perception)
Questioning someone's motives is a natural response to actions taken and observed. It is healthy. It's not rooted in judgment nor fear. It may appear that way to others due to limited perceptions and a shitty perspective but that's not your concern~ the behavior is. Judging someone's behavior is rooted in fear. But some people misunderstand judgment. Judgment is a mechanism used by the ego to determine if something is safe or not. The ego is a filter through which all experiences pass within the human psyche. It's impossible to not judge. When we are developing spiritually and maturing in our ability to discern we learn to judge well. It doesn't become a problem until we tell others how we feel about the judgment. In this form of judgment we have sunk into the depths of ego living and have fallen out of grace. Grace is a state of mind in which we know we are provided for and trust whole heartedly in our connection to all that is. We have faith that all will resolve in due season. Meaning, we can step back and let Karma handle that!
Call out culture is a REACTION
When we judge others we slip into powerlessness. We can easily blame others for what has transpired and allow ourselves to fall into an ego trap. Wanting to be heard, to be right, understood, justified, vindicated ~ these are all signs of the ego active within our thoughts words and actions.
Too often have I seen the negative effects of a call out culture. It does not open the lines of communication, rather creates a hostile environment of judge (person doing the call out) prosecutor (the people enabling the lerson who is doing the call out) jury, (the people observing or engaging) and defendant (person being called out). It instead puts people on the defenses and triggers people to react on all sides. It makes it challenging to respond to general concerns when they are riddled with accusation, ridicule, judgment and criticism.
Call-in Culture is a RESPONSE
On the contrary, opting for a call in, providing someone the space for conversation, this can lead to understanding and healing. Opting for call out creates disconnection. Opting for call in creates connection. Often times the simple question why do you feel this way will lead to the heart of the issue based on perception, beliefs and perspective making the root cause of the reaction easier to address.
I have vowed to React less respond more
I have been questioned by many people about my motives as is to be expected. As an appointed Spiritual Leader I do not expect people to follow me blindly. I do expect them to question everything I say and do their own research to verify what I say. All the answers to the questions you have are within you. As a teacher I am merely a tool shed of wisdom. You do not need me, I am only a messenger here to remind you of who you truly are. It will accelerate your growth. I will help you release each layer of lies that is blocking you from receiving love. And layer by layer your true self will be revealed. I prefer to respond because it is the reprogramming of my brain to cancel and rewire all previous reactions. I want to be the best version of myself. It is a practice.
The bottom line is this, situations will arise! How we deal with them determines where we are with ourselves. It doesn't matter what has happened to you. What matters is how you process it and whether you want to heal from it.
I love and accept you as you are where you are with yourself. But I don't have to put up with nonsense and neither do you. Let us instead walk our walk by helping each other respect each other. You can agree to disagree and still wish people well. Wishing harm upon others is in fact a reaction to your own limited perception beliefs and perspective.
Reaction is what people are wired to do based on past, unresolved traumas and boundaries based on beliefs ....
Response is acknowledging our reactions first, doing a personal inventory and healing our own issues~ THEN asking questions rather than assuming assigning blame or projecting.
It provides space for others to be, without us taking it personally. . We don't have to agree, but as soon as we tell someone they are right or wrong, WE ARE IN AN EGO TRAP.
Becoming aware of the harm others are placing upon others though, now that's different. In some cases call out is needed because call-in has failed. Those who intentionally go around causing harm must be held accountable for their actions at all costs. Call in or call out, we must unite and speak up and speak out.
If some one is raped by someone else, the punishment, once captured, is time in jail for the offense and a call out to the world as they are placed on an offenders list for the rest of their life. We intend as a collective to prevent harm from the innocent. This is a form of protection and deserves to be respected as such.
Black Moon Solar Eclipse
Our Last full moon was a blue moon lunar eclipse. The power harnessed was intense and ripe with releasing energies. We looked at the people places things and habits that were keeping us stuck and agreed to replace them with healthier choices. And now we begin anew in these choices anchoring in our creative abilities enhanced by the power of no moon at all. It is still intense energy ramping up in preparation for the 2nd blue moon of this year which will occur in March.
A New Moon is a great time to set your intentions, write down goals or begin new projects for the forthcoming cycle. In addition a BLACK NEW MOON is an auspicious moon that amplifies your intentions & inner-most heartfelt desires for the cycle. It is a powerful New Moon for alchemy and creative manifestation. Now is the moment for self love self reflection and self care. Its great if you have a partner, but if you don't it doesn't mean you are not worthy of one. Focus on the things you need to clear our and who you need to become to attract them in. It all starts with releasing what no longer serves us to make room for what does.
A black moon occurs when it is the 2nd new moon in a cycle or no moon in 1 month. 2018 is an 11 year in numerology and one of warped speed creation. We are being given a second chance at new beginnings amplified and further enhanced by no moon at all in Feb.
We can harness the energy of the moon to create the life we want. Usually, Its energy is most potent the day before the day of and the day after it rises, but in this case because there is no moon rising in February~ the entire month becomes a breeding ground for manifesting.
This solar eclipse just intensifies it all. It means all possibilities are on the table and you can rightly put yourself in the forefront of new plans for the future. It is time to question your old habits and behaviors as you search for new and inventive ways to make progress. This is the ideal time to make a fresh start, so write your new goals down on a sheet of paper.
FYI we are moving out of the FIRE ROOSTER into the EARTH DOG which offers further support.
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With a Sun and Moon in the same sign Aquarius during the week of love and a solar eclipse, it really begs to bring up the concept of masculine and feminine qualities and how this relates to self love.
We've got alot to think about. Many will enter a cocoon and be reborn again, I am one of them, see you on the other side.
Journey Well my friends!
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Question Peoples Motives
I got the opportunity to work up close and personal with an individual in our spiritual community in Saint Petersburg, Florida whose members complained to me about repeatedly for an entire year. Before I got involved, I was thinking, she can't be that bad. These people must be jealous of her success. So I dove in head first only to find out really slowly, not only was what people were saying about her true, it was actually a lot worse than they had described. And, she wasn't the only one displaying unsavory behavior and practices. I was more intrigued than anything else, curious about what she had to offer and I admit, I allowed myself to be charmed by the magical conversation and sparkly personality. But it had a serious darkside that would show itself from time to time. She would frequently do things that were not at all spiritually based, in fact, ego based and when I would call her on it, she would say, "I know my truth!" I was baffled at what appeared to be her successes with that kind of shadow.
Little by little she pushed me away using spiritual bypassing and to keep me at a distance. Except for when it involved me spending money on her classes. I started to notice she didn't have repeat clients and people who had been supporting her before I arrived on the scene began to keep their distance. And yet I continued to support her wondering why these people were no longer supporting her?
I was in denial with every bit of proof. I refused to believe someone could serve both darkside and the lightside. The truth is you can't. But you can pretend to serve the lightside while actually serving the darkside.
And the worse part, she had a team of people who all felt similar (wondering about her actions) yet still enabling her to stay this way. Why?
M O N E Y, status and and a genuine desire to study in metaphysics. There seems to be a collective reasoning in the spiritual community. The inner thought process appears logical; If so and so says she's legit, than she must be. Its part of the charm. Lure them in, ask them to write a review about their experience "if they feel guided" and then it began to unfold. what appeared to be person after person loving what she had to offer. But its not the whole story.
I tried so hard to have a heart to heart with her. She denied me over and over. When I realized I could no longer talk sense into her and that in reality, I was actually enabling her -
I backed off but not before realizing... Her behavior is Cult behavior. And it broke my heart, really.
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Be a Leader Among Leaders
If no one told you today, you are the leader of your life!
👉Never let anyone make you feel less than. 👈
Please do not follow people blindly. The ill intended only care about money. You can't buy these people's love. They will milk you dry before they ever love you.
Question people's motives. Speak up and SPEAK OUT. If anyone responds to questioning with egotistical behavior, it is clear they are still stuck in fear based living and a poverty mindset. If you try to hold someone accountable and they use spiritual principles to gas light, spiritually bypass, or push it back on you with that extremely toxic~ it's a reflection of you statement~ see it for what it is. This is most certainly NOT a reflection of you. This is a warped view of mirroring that allows abusers to use their victims as scapegoats. True leaders allow their team to call them on their shit and love it. They know it makes them better and stronger.
I am asking you to step into your greatness. This city, this world needs you, right now.
There are many people spiritually awake who shouldn't be in positions of power because they are abusing it. it is possible they haven't faced their shadow nor come out of the Dark Night of the Soul. And the worse part? They are co-signing on each others BS making them seem more legit than they really are. This is dangerous, especially when the rest of us are still finding our voice and learning how to expose ourselves to the world as a safer option. This is our time to rise up and band together and expose the harm being caused in the spiritual community by these abusers. Its easy to spot them. Trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, it isn't. Don't worry about hurting someone's feelings. Instead worry about the people being harmed by their practices.
These extraordinary times are asking each of us to roll up our sleeves and manifest a better world.
Lightworker Face Your Shadow
👉Be weary of anyone claiming they have met and mastered all of their shadow aspects.👈
This is a detrimental lure. It can take life times to manage the array of karma we cycle through in one lifetime. Even if you do not believe in Karma nor reincarnation, I caution you in following someone claiming to have mastered all problems in their life. Time, age, experiences and wisdom are all factors in healing. Dealing with the shadow aspects of self is much like learning about a skill, it honestly takes a lifetime to master the self.
We want to instead, connect with leaders who can admit their imperfections. Leaders who acknowledge spiritual growth comes not only from teachers but in the exchange between student and teacher. The moment you realize you are not living how you pretend to be, this is a good time to begin anew. Own your shit and step into the light. We are waiting for you to step into your greatness.
If you are currently involved with a teacher/elder who demands the spotlight or doesn't mind if you speak your truth, unless it takes away attention from him/her~ have the courage to walk away.
As a spiritual advisor of over 25 years long before life coaching was trending, I can tell you, I've been talking people off the bridge as a natural part of my personality. You aren't going to find how to do that in any 9 month mentorship program.
It's a gift and it can be exploited like any other gift. Cause no harm but take no shit!
👉Do not give your power away.👈
Forgive Essential Oil and Renew
Are you holding onto expectations, resentments, bitterness
about a person place or situation?
These are all signposts along the path we are traveling in this journey called life.
And they spell out LACK OF FORGIVENESS.
It is an energetic deficiency and not sustainable.
Lack of forgiveness is a heavy burden we place upon ourselves.
It is emotional currency with an inflated price tag.
It can bankrupt us emotionally one moment at a time.
Letting go is affordable and sustainable!
It is a conscious decision to disconnect from the person/situation
that caused us pain by choosing to forgive.
This is why I use doTERRA Forgive Renewing Blend
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Melania Mersades, writes about Essential Oil Education, Global Energy updates, The moon cycles and the Science behind Energy Medicine.