Call Out Culture is DEAD
,When creating "Conscious Community" the main challenge is confronting the "unconscious" behaviors preventing the community from evolving. Yet how do we address what needs to be addressed in a way that's safe for everyone?
Well, I respond best in situations that are:
--->>> permission based rather than imposed upon
--->>>safe
--->>>provide options
--->>>where all voices are heard
--->>>offers opt outs or passes
I also feel most comfortable addressing issues in a space where all are respected as sovereign.
Over the years of navigating the unconscious behaviors in Saint Petersburg Florida, I've learned a lot about how people react and have encouraged many to "react less and respond more".
Those who have been following me on social media for years know this is one of my favorite messages to deliver. Those who are just becoming aware of my mission have no idea what the last few years have been like in Saint Pete.
People react to situations in life based on 3 things:
1.Perception (the ability to take things in from healed or unresolved trauma)
2.Beliefs (boundaries set up by you from past experiences)
3.Perspective (the way you look at the things you are seeing based on those beliefs and your perception)
When something happens in the community that affects the community in a harmful way, questioning someone's motives is a natural response. Harmful behavior needs to be addressed especially when it was intentional but definitely when it was unintended.
It is healthy. It's how we hold ourselves accountable.
It's not rooted in judgment nor fear.
I usually address issues with the person directly. Anything less is gossip.
I've learned to observe and report by sharing actual facts rather that judging someone's behavior sharing opinions or emotions about what I believe.
Judging someone's behavior as right or wrong when they haven't caused any actual harm is ego based and is rooted in fear not love.
It isn't necessary to Call someone out who:
Hasn't caused any actual harm
has different beliefs
growing at a pace that is faster slower than anyone else
Well, I respond best in situations that are:
--->>> permission based rather than imposed upon
--->>>safe
--->>>provide options
--->>>where all voices are heard
--->>>offers opt outs or passes
I also feel most comfortable addressing issues in a space where all are respected as sovereign.
Over the years of navigating the unconscious behaviors in Saint Petersburg Florida, I've learned a lot about how people react and have encouraged many to "react less and respond more".
Those who have been following me on social media for years know this is one of my favorite messages to deliver. Those who are just becoming aware of my mission have no idea what the last few years have been like in Saint Pete.
People react to situations in life based on 3 things:
1.Perception (the ability to take things in from healed or unresolved trauma)
2.Beliefs (boundaries set up by you from past experiences)
3.Perspective (the way you look at the things you are seeing based on those beliefs and your perception)
When something happens in the community that affects the community in a harmful way, questioning someone's motives is a natural response. Harmful behavior needs to be addressed especially when it was intentional but definitely when it was unintended.
It is healthy. It's how we hold ourselves accountable.
It's not rooted in judgment nor fear.
I usually address issues with the person directly. Anything less is gossip.
I've learned to observe and report by sharing actual facts rather that judging someone's behavior sharing opinions or emotions about what I believe.
Judging someone's behavior as right or wrong when they haven't caused any actual harm is ego based and is rooted in fear not love.
It isn't necessary to Call someone out who:
Hasn't caused any actual harm
has different beliefs
growing at a pace that is faster slower than anyone else
Call out culture is a REACTION
Some people really feel the need to go around "calling out" people for their behaviors. But they don't realize just how harmful this type of action taken can actually be. it's a form of judgment.
When we judge others we slip into powerlessness. We can easily blame others for what has transpired and allow ourselves to fall into an ego trap. Wanting to be heard, to be right, understood, justified, vindicated ~ these are all signs of the ego active within our thoughts words and actions.
Too often have I seen the negative effects of a call out culture.
It does not open the lines of conscious communication, rather creates a hostile environment of Judge, Prosecutor and Jury.
Judge
(person doing the call out)
Prosecutor
(the people enabling the person who is doing the call out)
Jury,
(the people observing or engaging) and defendant (person being called out).
It instead puts people on the defenses and triggers people to react on all sides. It makes it challenging to respond to general concerns when they are riddled with accusation, ridicule, judgment and criticism.
When we judge others we slip into powerlessness. We can easily blame others for what has transpired and allow ourselves to fall into an ego trap. Wanting to be heard, to be right, understood, justified, vindicated ~ these are all signs of the ego active within our thoughts words and actions.
Too often have I seen the negative effects of a call out culture.
It does not open the lines of conscious communication, rather creates a hostile environment of Judge, Prosecutor and Jury.
Judge
(person doing the call out)
Prosecutor
(the people enabling the person who is doing the call out)
Jury,
(the people observing or engaging) and defendant (person being called out).
It instead puts people on the defenses and triggers people to react on all sides. It makes it challenging to respond to general concerns when they are riddled with accusation, ridicule, judgment and criticism.
Call-in Culture is a RESPONSE
On the contrary, opting for a call in, providing someone the space for conversation, this can lead to understanding and healing. Opting for call out creates a hostile environment that may lead to disconnection. Opting for call in creates connection.
Often times the simple question why do you feel this way will lead to the heart of the issue based on perception, beliefs and perspective making the root cause of the reaction easier to address.
I have vowed to React less respond more
I have been questioned by many people about my motives as is to be expected. As an appointed Spiritual Leader I do not expect people to follow me blindly. I do expect them to question everything I say and do their own research to verify what I say. All the answers to the questions you have are within you. As a teacher I am merely a tool shed of wisdom. You do not need me, I am only a messenger here to remind you of who you truly are. It will accelerate your growth. I will help you release each layer of lies that is blocking you from receiving love. And layer by layer your true self will be revealed. I prefer to respond because it is the reprogramming of my brain to cancel and rewire all previous reactions. I want to be the best version of myself. It is a practice.
The bottom line is this, situations will arise! How we deal with them determines where we are with ourselves. It doesn't matter what has happened to you. What matters is how you process it and whether you want to heal from it.
Often times the simple question why do you feel this way will lead to the heart of the issue based on perception, beliefs and perspective making the root cause of the reaction easier to address.
I have vowed to React less respond more
I have been questioned by many people about my motives as is to be expected. As an appointed Spiritual Leader I do not expect people to follow me blindly. I do expect them to question everything I say and do their own research to verify what I say. All the answers to the questions you have are within you. As a teacher I am merely a tool shed of wisdom. You do not need me, I am only a messenger here to remind you of who you truly are. It will accelerate your growth. I will help you release each layer of lies that is blocking you from receiving love. And layer by layer your true self will be revealed. I prefer to respond because it is the reprogramming of my brain to cancel and rewire all previous reactions. I want to be the best version of myself. It is a practice.
The bottom line is this, situations will arise! How we deal with them determines where we are with ourselves. It doesn't matter what has happened to you. What matters is how you process it and whether you want to heal from it.
Know this
I love and accept you as you are where you are with yourself. But I don't have to put up with nonsense and neither do you. Let us instead walk our walk by helping each other respect each other. You can agree to disagree and still wish people well. Wishing harm upon others is in fact a reaction to your own limited perception beliefs and perspective.
In summary:
Reaction is what people are wired to do based on past, unresolved traumas and boundaries based on beliefs ....
Response is acknowledging our reactions first, doing a personal inventory and healing our own issues~ THEN asking questions rather than assuming assigning blame or projecting.
It provides space for others to be, without us taking it personally. . We don't have to agree, but as soon as we tell someone they are right or wrong, WE ARE IN AN EGO TRAP.
In some cases call out is needed because call-in has failed.
The ONE time Call out is necessary:
Becoming aware of the actual harm others are placing upon members of the community is extremely important in cases of rape, molestation, human sex trafficking. Those who intentionally go around causing harm must be held accountable for their actions at all costs. Call in or call out, we must unite and speak up and speak out.
The punishment, for the above behavior once captured, is time in jail for the offense and a call out to the world as they are placed on an offenders list for the rest of their life.
We intend as a collective to prevent harm from the innocent. This is a form of protection and deserves to be respected as such.
So, what do we do when we have honestly opted for a call in and yet the person who is being called in refuses to speak with us? This is a question I have yet to answer..
In summary:
Reaction is what people are wired to do based on past, unresolved traumas and boundaries based on beliefs ....
Response is acknowledging our reactions first, doing a personal inventory and healing our own issues~ THEN asking questions rather than assuming assigning blame or projecting.
It provides space for others to be, without us taking it personally. . We don't have to agree, but as soon as we tell someone they are right or wrong, WE ARE IN AN EGO TRAP.
In some cases call out is needed because call-in has failed.
The ONE time Call out is necessary:
Becoming aware of the actual harm others are placing upon members of the community is extremely important in cases of rape, molestation, human sex trafficking. Those who intentionally go around causing harm must be held accountable for their actions at all costs. Call in or call out, we must unite and speak up and speak out.
The punishment, for the above behavior once captured, is time in jail for the offense and a call out to the world as they are placed on an offenders list for the rest of their life.
We intend as a collective to prevent harm from the innocent. This is a form of protection and deserves to be respected as such.
So, what do we do when we have honestly opted for a call in and yet the person who is being called in refuses to speak with us? This is a question I have yet to answer..
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