Melania's Healing Edge
People react to situations in life based on 3 things: 1. perception (your ability to take things in from healed or unresolved trauma) 2. Beliefs (boundaries set up by you from past experiences) 3. Perspective (the way you look at the things you are seeing based on those beliefs and your perception)
Questioning someone's motives is a natural response to actions taken and observed. It is healthy. It's not rooted in judgment nor fear. It may appear that way to others due to limited perceptions and a shitty perspective but that's not your concern~ the behavior is. Judging someone's behavior is rooted in fear. But some people misunderstand judgment. Judgment is a mechanism used by the ego to determine if something is safe or not. The ego is a filter through which all experiences pass within the human psyche. It's impossible to not judge. When we are developing spiritually and maturing in our ability to discern we learn to judge well. It doesn't become a problem until we tell others how we feel about the judgment. In this form of judgment we have sunk into the depths of ego living and have fallen out of grace. Grace is a state of mind in which we know we are provided for and trust whole heartedly in our connection to all that is. We have faith that all will resolve in due season. Meaning, we can step back and let Karma handle that!
Call out culture is a REACTION
When we judge others we slip into powerlessness. We can easily blame others for what has transpired and allow ourselves to fall into an ego trap. Wanting to be heard, to be right, understood, justified, vindicated ~ these are all signs of the ego active within our thoughts words and actions.
Too often have I seen the negative effects of a call out culture. It does not open the lines of communication, rather creates a hostile environment of judge (person doing the call out) prosecutor (the people enabling the lerson who is doing the call out) jury, (the people observing or engaging) and defendant (person being called out). It instead puts people on the defenses and triggers people to react on all sides. It makes it challenging to respond to general concerns when they are riddled with accusation, ridicule, judgment and criticism.
Call-in Culture is a RESPONSE
On the contrary, opting for a call in, providing someone the space for conversation, this can lead to understanding and healing. Opting for call out creates disconnection. Opting for call in creates connection. Often times the simple question why do you feel this way will lead to the heart of the issue based on perception, beliefs and perspective making the root cause of the reaction easier to address.
I have vowed to React less respond more
I have been questioned by many people about my motives as is to be expected. As an appointed Spiritual Leader I do not expect people to follow me blindly. I do expect them to question everything I say and do their own research to verify what I say. All the answers to the questions you have are within you. As a teacher I am merely a tool shed of wisdom. You do not need me, I am only a messenger here to remind you of who you truly are. It will accelerate your growth. I will help you release each layer of lies that is blocking you from receiving love. And layer by layer your true self will be revealed. I prefer to respond because it is the reprogramming of my brain to cancel and rewire all previous reactions. I want to be the best version of myself. It is a practice.
The bottom line is this, situations will arise! How we deal with them determines where we are with ourselves. It doesn't matter what has happened to you. What matters is how you process it and whether you want to heal from it.
I love and accept you as you are where you are with yourself. But I don't have to put up with nonsense and neither do you. Let us instead walk our walk by helping each other respect each other. You can agree to disagree and still wish people well. Wishing harm upon others is in fact a reaction to your own limited perception beliefs and perspective.
Reaction is what people are wired to do based on past, unresolved traumas and boundaries based on beliefs ....
Response is acknowledging our reactions first, doing a personal inventory and healing our own issues~ THEN asking questions rather than assuming assigning blame or projecting.
It provides space for others to be, without us taking it personally. . We don't have to agree, but as soon as we tell someone they are right or wrong, WE ARE IN AN EGO TRAP.
Becoming aware of the harm others are placing upon others though, now that's different. In some cases call out is needed because call-in has failed. Those who intentionally go around causing harm must be held accountable for their actions at all costs. Call in or call out, we must unite and speak up and speak out.
If some one is raped by someone else, the punishment, once captured, is time in jail for the offense and a call out to the world as they are placed on an offenders list for the rest of their life. We intend as a collective to prevent harm from the innocent. This is a form of protection and deserves to be respected as such.
So, what do we do when we have honestly opted for a call in and yet the person who is being called in refuses to speak with us? This is a question I have yet to answer..
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Melania Mersades, writes about Essential Oil Education, Global Energy updates, The moon cycles and the Science behind Energy Medicine.